Woman's Friend Secretly Sets Her Up For Blind Date, Woman Already Has Boyfriend

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mattstaff
Jul 3, 2021 7:00 PM EDT

It's hard to believe that this person's even real in the first place. The disgusting lack of boundaries and respect from this woman's "friend" is enough to leave you questioning how they even ended up being friends in the first place. I mean, to have the audacity to set your friend up for a blind date when they already have a partner is pretty mind-blowing. Thus, it's no wonder that this woman didn't want to be her friend's bridesmaid anymore. Sounds like the bride is already well on her way toward being nothing short of a bridezilla. 

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    Font - AITA for telling my friend I don't want to be her bridesmaid anymore? Not the A-hole Throwaway. My friend, “Mary," and I have known each other since we were children. We've grown apart over the past few years, but she still considers me important enough to make me a bridesmaid. Her wedding is set to be in 3 weeks. One reason why I sort of distanced myself from her was because of her treatment of my relationship. My boyfriend, "Jack," and I have been together for 3 and 2 years. He's a wond
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    Font - Jack comes from a very wealthy background. His parents are certainly very wealthy; he was practically guaranteed a lavish life from the moment that he left the womb. This is in stark contrast to my childhood; I grew up in a low income neighbourhood, often wondering where my next meal was, or how I was gonna help pay the bills at a young age etc. I'm grateful and proud for where I am today. Jack is considered to be "conventionally attractive," always looking like he should be on some magaz
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    Font - Jack's good looks and background have led Mary to believe that "Jack deserves better than me," as, according to her, "There's no way I could have pulled someone so attractive and rich." It's pretty disheartening to hear those things constantly and it does kind of take a toll on you (and the friendship.) Whenever Jack is around, she's quite polite and respectful, never once making those comments. Eventually, the comments stopped. Mary invited me for lunch with her fiancé and his friend, "G
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    Font - He was very taken aback by my answer. He told me that Mary had set up a blind, double-date of sorts for the both of us. I was very confused (and slightly angry) I didn't want to be confrontational at lunch (especially in public) so I just carried on with the lunch. Luckily Gary wasn't upset and ended up making a few jokes about the whole ordeal. I called Mary later on in the day and asked her a ton of questions about why she thought it was okay to do that. At first she tried to deny it, b
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    Font - I was shocked by her bluntness, so I just told her that I didn't want to be her bridesmaid anymore. Granted, it was a pretty impulsive decision, but I still stand by it. Mary didn't take it well; trying to apologise and saying that it was a mistake. It's been a few days and her fiancé has been texting me, asking me to suck it up for the wedding. I feel petty and conflicted right now. EDIT: Jack knows about the "date." | wouldn't keep that from him haha. 14.5k 1.1k 1, Share
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    Rectangle - duke113 · 22h Partassipant [4] NTA. This sounds kind of like your friend is jealous. Normally friends only disapprove when you're out of your SO league (ie when they think you can do better) instead of what you're describing G Reply ...
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    Handwriting - WOW. NTA. Mary is not a friend. Why would you want her in your life when she is always gonna pull this crap. Have a wonderful life with Jack, and drop Mary and her soon to be husband. G Reply 4 478 3 ...
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    Rectangle - 16 Awards You are so absolutely NTA and you should have dumped this "friend" the minute she told you Jack was too good for you. Don't let her change your mind. |+ G Reply 4 18.7k 3 ...
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    Font - ForgottenTroll · 22h Colo-rectal Surgeon [35] NTA. In general, you should not withdraw from bridesmaiding three weeks out absent some kind of special circumstance. This is such a special circumstance. "This is Gary, he is the groomsman who will walk beside you and such" is fair. "This is Gary. He is in your league, unlike your boyfriend and you need to date him" is not. Your friend is manipulative and judgmental, and she let those flags fly. I see nothing wrong with informing her you are
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    Font - NTA Mary is under the impression that Jack is "too good for me" Anyone who says this is not your friend. Friends want the best for each other, which means no partner is "too good" for their friends. G Reply 86 +
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    Organism - NTA. Mary is in love with Jack, is jealous of you, and wants to break you up. Skip the wedding and skip the friendship. Maybe stay friends with Gary; he sounds ok. ETA: why are you conflicted about a woman who talks to you like dirt and treats you like dirt? 6 Reply 4 2k 3
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    Handwriting - srtmadison • 22h Partassipant [4] NTA Mary sounds like a "frenemy" and the sooner you cut contact the better off you'll be in the long run. Sorry OP, it hurts to realize a friendship has run its course. G Reply 4 217 3 ...
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    Font - TheUnwrittenscript · 22h NTA! Ew, your "friend" isn't a real friend. I wouldn't be friends with someone who thought I didn't deserve a good thing happening in my life. She treats you like she's resentful. Whatever it is. She doesn't respect you or your relationship, isn't really a friend, and is super weird to set you up on a date while you're in a relationship, RUN G Reply 1 49 3 ...
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    Font - Mary IS JEALOUS! mary is jealous you might marry jack someday and live the lavish style he and his family provide. She belittles you, puts you down and tries to break up your relationship. Shes a horrible person. Do not be in her wedding and do NOT be her friend anymore. Good god shes trying to ruin your life because god forbid you have something better than her NTA G Reply 33 3 ..
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    Rectangle - AffectionateBite3827 · 22h NTA. Tell Mary you think the wedding is out of her league and the bridal party is way too attractive for you to participate and that you don't deserve to be a bridesmaid. G Reply 1 22 3 ...
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    Rectangle - badassmamabear · 22h Partassipant [2] Absolutely NTA and OP, Mary is NOT your friend. G Reply 4 63 3 ...
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    Rectangle - Cold-Release4985 · 22h NTA. Mary is the worst kind of friend. She obviously thinks lowly of you. A real friend would never tell them that they're not good enough. She has no respect for your 3.5 year relationship. I would drop her. Who needs friends like Mary? Nobody I tell you. G Reply 4 12 3 + ...
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    Rectangle - MizzyvonMuffling · 22h Partassipant [4] NTA and don't be her bridesmaid. She doesn't deserve you. G Reply ...
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    Font - NTA. Why on earth have you maintained a friendship with her? She doesn't even think highly of you as a person, let alone a friend. G Reply ...
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